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Principles from Video Games

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Parents are often frustrated when their children spend hours playing video games.  But instead of wishing this technology would just go away (too late for that) why not look at what makes videos so appealing and use it to your child’s advantage.  

First, video games require active engagement.  Sure, the participant is just moving their thumbs or fingers but even these small movements “connect” them to the task.

Second, video games are primarily visual.  Throughout most of human existence we’ve learned more by seeing things than by listening to explanations.

Finally, video games provide frequent reinforcement.  Even though your child may be playing for hours they’re constantly aware of their progress and are usually able to move to a new level every few minutes.  

On my next blog post I will suggest ways to adapt these principles to something as boring as homework.

Tantrums/Meltdowns

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Children use acting out to substitute for skill deficits.  They act out when they don’t see any other way to solve problems or gain power, or both!  And when they learn that their acting out works…the bigger the problem, the bigger the tantrum. 

For these reasons parents should never reinforce bad behavior by giving in.  But, at the same time, they must work to “teach” their child a better way to deal with frustrations.  

Life is nothing more than a succession of problems.  That’s why problem solving skills are among the most important things a person can possess.  

When we teach our children good problem solving skills we are giving them the tools to transform their lives.

 

Yelling Seldom Helps

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Unfortunately, almost all parents yell at their kids.  But the simple reality is yelling (and nagging) is likely to be ignored or provoke angry confrontations.  Neither of these outcomes improves the relationship between parent and child.

What to do?

Plan.  

Look at problems logically.  Figure out ways to encourage your child rather than just punish them.  Write these down so you’ll remember, then talk about it with your child.  Finally, and this is critical, DO WHAT YOU SAID YOU WOULD DO!!